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Relationships 101

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By Assistant Superintendent Monty Sears
January 18, 2018
 
The month of February is very special to Kelli and I, and I'll bet it's special to you too. 36 years ago in Prescott, AZ on February 14th, we said two words that forever changed our lives, "I do". We both came from broken homes, which deepened our commitment to marriage. I'd like to offer a few marriage tips that have helped guide us in our marriage and home.
 
Trust in God's blessing wholeheartedly....
God's blessing is more powerful than the enemy's attack. Marriage is God's plan, so you can expect the enemy to do anything and everything to try to damage God's plan. If the enemy can bring chaos, pain, and hurt into a Pastor's marriage, it has far reaching effects on the people you lead. By the way, every marriage has problems but the good ones work their way through them. By faith you can claim Isaiah 54:17, "No weapon formed against you shall prosper". In Jesus' name!
 
Date your spouse creatively....
Here are few things that have worked well for us: hiding love notes where he/she can find them; buy flowers, take walks together; hold hands; and intentionally schedule date nights. Probably the most important of all is make sure to laugh often.
 
Communicate with your wife meaningfully...
Communication is to marriage what blood is to life so it's very important to unplug for a focused period of time every day. Make sure to make eye contact, respond with a smile, and then always pray for one another.
 
Serve your spouse cheerfully...
I'm reminded of the story of the boy who said to his girlfriend, "I'd fight the strongest man for you, swim the deepest ocean for you, climb the tallest mountain for you...and I'll be over tonight if it's not raining!" By serving your spouse, you are showing how much you treasure him/her. Tangible acts of service send a strong message of genuine caring.
 
Inspire your spouse regularly....
Words of encouragement and support can make a huge difference. Help him/her see the greatness God has placed inside them. Your affirmation will be a catalyst for seeing your spouse walk into their full potential.
 
Walk with the Lord faithfully...
The greatest thing you can do in ministry and marriage is to walk with the Lord faithfully. Let your family see you reading God's Word and hear you praying over them. There's a powerful dynamic that is released when you speak blessings over your spouse and children. Modeling the life you desire them to live will create the legacy you desire to leave. I still say, "I do".
 
I'm praying that God's touch will be manifested in each and every marriage in our wonderful
Southern Idaho Ministry Network...and beyond. In Jesus' name. GOD is awesome, He thinks YOU are too,
 
Monty Sears